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Sunday, February 6, 2011

Mental Metamophosis

This one goes out to BLACK HISTORY MONTH... Every month is our month!!! February is short but our history is endless!!!

Mental Metamorphosis....

Most of us know how to define 'metamorphosis'... The dictionary defines it as a profound change from one stage to the next in the history of an organism.

When I refer to it, I'm defining it as a profound change from one stage to the next in the history of the black brain.

Now that I sit and ponder... Throughout my life, my mind has went from one stage to the next. Sometimes it's lost but seldom is it found.

As black people, we have to gone through so many stages. Our identity is still gone with the wind. Think about it...We still have black people in this world who want to be white. We have some who try to bleach their skin because they don't love their skin. There are those who over process their hair to keep it from kinking up in it's natural state. We have some that label other black people as 'niggers,' and the list continues...

We eat off of what is fed to us and most of it is self-hate and lies...

Why do you think slaves were forbidden to learn and to read? The white masters didn't want them to gain smarts because they knew that the black mind was a hell of a weapon and that weapon would be used against them! It's still going on in 2011. Black students are being treated as less important than whites.The same goes for black employees. It's real. I've experienced it firsthand. How about the blacks who don't want their own brothas and sistas to succeed... that didn't come from no where. It's the house slave against the yard slave. The light skin against the dark skin. The fine hair against the coarse hair.

Why do people say that slavery is over? Many people interpret slavery as physical beatings and being owned by white people. If you think about it, we still have mental beatings. We still don't get the same opportunities, and we are still the bottom dogs in the game. Lie to yourself if you want to... Slavery was real and still is... just in a different form. We get beat down and most of us would rather stay down!

Our 1st stage of the black brain comes from what is taught to us. Our parents are who we look to when we are kids. If they didn't teach us about 'us,' then we felt that it wasn't important. Our parents are quick to engrave religion in us... They want us to follow tradition. Why not engrave our black history in us as well? I mean I love Martin Luther King and Harriet Tubman but there's so much more to our history than we will ever know. Children now days only know about Gucci, Nicki, and Travis Porter... We need to tighten up!

Our brain also goes through a stage of identity crisis. We want to find ourselves but don't know how. Think about it... we think that money, cars, jewelry, and all the materialistic things are what makes us and that's where we go wrong at. Black women who use their bodies to get what they want are in this stage. Black men who think money makes them and get lost in the streets may be in this stage as well. I just hope this stage is just a phase!

Knowledge is also a stage of mental metamorphosis. Many of us don't like to deal with this stage. We'd rather see what's in front of us and instead of learn what's happening around us. Knowledge is the most prosperous flower but it's also the deadliest weapon but many of us won't have the flower or the weapon. We won't grow the flower because we don't want to deal with the water to grow the seed. The water is taking the time to learn, to teach, to ask questions when we don't understand, and research for ourselves. If only we knew how to pull that trigger to that weapon of knowledge... instead we keep the safety on by jumping on bandwagons and settling for less. If we initiated our own meaningful aspects of life instead of settling for what 'they' give us then we would be able to pull that trigger!

It's all a mental metamorphosis... we go from one stage to the next but we need to make sense out of each of those stages in order to really get somewhere!

These are my personal thoughts, no one has to agree. When I 1st started my blog, I told you that I'll write what my mind tells me to but I promise not to tell you anything wrong!

Teach your children about their history, don't lie to them. Give them a better chance at life and when I say 'your children' they don't have to be biologically yours!!!






Sunday, January 2, 2011

2011 What's Happening!


So...it's a NEW YEAR. It's the time that everybody claim to be 'new' people!

Do you really have plans of being new or does is just sound good to you?

In the words of me: "IT'S GOOD TO HAVE YOUR THINKING CAP ON BUT IT'S BETTER TO HAVE ON ACTION SHOES TO GO WITH IT."

Ask yourself....

Do I want to be where I was at the end of 2009 or 2010?

Am I still going to let everybody else make my decisions for me like I did in 2010?

Am I still going to put others 1st and keep myself last?

Am I going to keep running from my problems or am I going to face them head on and find better solutions?

Am I just going to thank God when things are good or am I going to do the same when I'm down?

Am I still going to sit on my butt and let time defeat me?

Am I still going to be in the relationship with this man/woman that didn't cause me nothing but pain?

Am I still going to hold on to my past because I'm scared of what the future may have in store or just because I'm too stubborn to let go?

Am I still going to hold on to my so called "friends" who I break my back for but can never depend on?

Am I going to stick with this job that make me miserable or search for better?

Am I going to be bitter about what I've been through or change my attitude and mindset and be better?

-if u answered yes to any of these, please try again!.... believe me, I'm working on it as well!

I could go on and on but most grown people know how to learn from their mishaps and mistakes...only if they want to learn from them. It's so easy to say "I can't" but so hard to step into doing it? I'm trying to get to the point where I can look back and say "I did it" better yet show, "I did it." Remember... ACTIONS speak louder than words....

In 2011 we can complain about where we are or what we want but complaining is no good if you have no action plans. 2010 brought me 2,010 tears so I'd rather 2011 bring me 2,011 smiles!


Sunday, November 7, 2010

I Am...


I Am….

I have skin as dark as chocolate.

My cheeks are full and round.

My lips are plump and thick,

My hair is like wool but it’s my glory and my crown.

My eyes don’t possess the colors of blue, and neither are they gray.

Dark brown is a color of beauty that my skin, my hair, and my eyes display.

I’m usually in my own world and I desire quality over quantity.

I love people who ‘are’ and not the ones who simply ‘wanna be.’

So what, I drive with 2 feet and I write with my left hand.

Give up on me and tell me I can’t, and I’ll show you that I can!

Life has taken a toll on me but it’s introduced me to the bold in me.

After I go through pain, I usually come out more beautifully.

Only God knows how my future will turnout,

But I know when I have faith in him; it takes away all my doubts.

So I’ll keep my thick thighs, my brown eyes.

I’ll keep my plump lips, my full hips.

I can live with my nappy hair without a care.

It’s all simply part of me and what makes me (me)…. ASHLEE!!!

Wednesday, October 27, 2010

You Know You're Natural When...


YOU KNOW YOU'RE NATURAL WHEN....

You are constantly reading the ingredients on the back of products before you buy them...

You have picks sitting around the house instead of combs...

You wear big earrings with the makeup to match...

You stay on youtube looking for new tips...

You join every natural hair group there is to possibly join on facebook...

YOU KNOW YOU'RE NATURAL WHEN....

Your grandma or mom says she wants to strap you down and grab the hot comb...

You can get up jump in the shower, wash your hair, and go...(when it's short)

You can put the smallest amount of gel on your hair and it start to curl up...

You go in Walmart and go straight to the hair products and forget everything else you needed...

You surf the web looking at the expensive products (ie, Miss Jessie, Carol's Daughter etc.) then say it's too much $$$...

You go out in public and people want to touch your hair to see how it feel...

You have more conditioner than you do shampoo...

You make your own hair products using stuff straight out the kitchen...

Sunday, October 17, 2010

Ashlee... The Updated Version


WHEN LIFE EXPERIENCES TEACH, YOU HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO LEARN...

LIFE WILL KNOCK YOU DOWN, BUT IT'S UP TO YOU IF YOU STAY DOWN OR GET BACK UP....
I'm young but have been through storms and back. I won't say hell and back because I don't plan on going there at all.

Changes have came along in my life from the beginning of my blog til now, just thought I'd give my readers a little update...

Pain was added to my life so people were dropped from my life.....
Everything happens for a reason.

When certain people were dropped from my life, relief was added to my life.....
Everything happens for a reason.

When relief was added to my life, negativity was dropped from my life.....
Everything happens for a reason.

When negativity was dropped from my life, a peace of mind was added to my life.....
Everything happens for a reason.

I have a job where I work with clients who have everyday problems. In the process, I sometimes stop and think about my own life. I now work on me more. I don't care what people think/say about me because I've learned to live for me. One way to know that you're not really living for yourself is always caring about what others think. That's a big No No over this way. You either accept me or don't deal with me. I think my skin is a little tougher and it's okay because I needed to be a little harder... If you don't present yourself like a strong rock, people will treat you like some cheap dirt.

You have 1 life to live so live it for you!!!

So uhmmm I guess this is a newer intro of me....Ashlee....

I miss my bloggin and I'm ready to get back on it =)




Hair and Moisture


Many black women have problems with dry hair and keeping it moisturized. Lack of moisture can cause breakage for all hair types. Since I've been natural, I discovered one good way to keep the hair moist. This is for relaxed and natural hair though....Glycerin mix... I learned about it by watching youtube and had to try it because I think I have the most coarse hair type there is. It worked real good and a couple of my friends love it too. It's basically mixing pure glycerin and water together in a spray bottle to spray on your hair. If you're not familiar with glycerin, it's an absorbent; it absorbs water from the air and basically keeps the hair moist all day. Glycerin is odorless and colorless. If you find glycerin with smell or color then something has been added. Glycerin is pure. Many of the ladies on youtube use vegetable glycerin but I use pure glycerin which works just fine for me. If you have a favorite oil that you like (jojoba, coconut, tea tree, african, carrot, etc), go ahead and add it to the glycerin and water but only do a few drops, you don't want to make it too oily. If you want to look for the glycerin, it will say it's for the skin so it'll be in the skin protectant section of CVS, Rite Aid, or mainly any drug store.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Just A Little 'Lift Up'

We wouldn't be who we are without problems. Problems are problems for a reason. Some are more extreme than others but once the problem is over, we are either changed for the good or for the bad. We should pick up a lesson from it or prepare ourselves to go through it again!!!

I can honestly admit that I'd probably be one of those people to take life for granted if I wouldn't have ever experienced stress and pain in my life. It took that for me to learn, for me to grow. Many times, we would rather just give up and let our problems win but we fail to realize that God knows what he is doing...he knows when to do it, how to do it, and how much to do it.... Our duty is to just trust him because if he puts you in the fire, he sits by the fire and comforts his child. He knows when the flames are too much for us to bear and when he brings you out of that fire, you won't be all ugly and burnt up.... You'll be beautiful and refreshed with a whole new prospective on life!!!

Live, Laugh, Love, Learn, Trust God, and GROW!!!